Whenever you are faced with a difficult area of life, the most important thing you can do is to restore your peace of mind. This is important because when you are full of fear and upset, you lose your ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision and destroy your ability to find solutions. Almost anything you do in this state makes your situation worse.
The moment you restore your inner peace, everything changes. The tunnel vision disappears and you see your situation clearly. You can find solutions and this area of life begins to clear up. To restore both your peace of mind and your effectiveness, take the following steps:
1. Find the specific circumstances that you are avoiding and resisting. What do you fear will happen? What are you fighting? Be as specific as possible.
2. Let go. Be willing for your fears to come true and for your situation to never change. Be willing in your heart, not your actions. Letting go is strictly an inner state. It restores your ability to see clearly so you can see what action you need to take.
3. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. This makes letting go a lot easier. Trust is something you create. It’s a declaration and a stand. It’s also telling the truth. You have had difficult times before and you have made it through every one of them. If you are in a difficult time now, you will make it through this one too.
4. Release the negative emotion. On the surface, we resist certain circumstances, but at a deeper level, we don’t resist the circumstances, we resist all the feelings and emotion that the circumstances reactivate. To remove this negative emotion, dive into it and feel it willingly like a child. Reach in and pull it out.
5. Find and heal the nerve that is being triggered. Ultimately, all the fear, upset and tunnel vision comes from the automatic avoidance of some nerve. Finding and healing this nerve is one of the most important things you can ever do. It is the key to having life work.
6. Look at your situation newly. Once the fear, upset and tunnel vision is gone, you see will your situation in a very different way. Get to this place of peace. Then look to see what needs to be done. As you look, solutions and opportunity will begin to show up.
7. Take action. Go full speed to handle this area of your life.
To resolve the problem areas of your life and to restore your effectiveness quickly,schedule an appointment with Bill Ferguson. Most situations get resolved in just a few sessions.
